My parents fight about 3 times a day about money. We seem like a well off family with a big house but my dad owes about $500,000 in debt and were about to file bankcruptcy. My mom puts him down all the time and goes bolistic. My dad tries to stay calm but he can get violent and has made a dent in our fridge from built up anger. I have a 11 year old brother and we can’t handle it anymore. We don’t cry or get sad physically because were so used to it. I have definately noticed that I don’t have as much emotion anymore at all and nothing emotionally phases me. My brother and I are mentally hurt and my parents say they are going to divorce but since we have no money they can’t. This is really just a summary of our many problems. What should I do? Im already stressed out about clothes, getting a car, college and more because we can’t afford it. Please help. Im hopeless.
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Sorry to hear about your bad situation. It is unfortunate for you and your brother to have to deal with it. I might suggest talking to your parents about it. Have them sit down and let them know that the fact they keep fighting over the same things all the time is really hurtful to you. Understand that their fighting is about them and not about you and your brother, but it still effects you. Don’t just say we wish you would stop fighting, but ask, what can be done to put a plan together that will give everyone a goal and direction so the fighting can stop. If they say you don’t understand, say that might be right, but I do understand the fighting and arguing isn’t healthy for any of us. This may make them realize what is going on around them, because sometimes people get so focused on their problems they don’t see the big picture.
Maybe they will explain it to you. I encourage that. While you are young and may not understand all the things they talk about, this a chance for you to learn how things got bad and how not to repeat them. Also remember outside appearances can be deceiving. That is probably a big part of the money troubles. They most likely have over spent to keep up the appearances. $500,000 is a lot of money to owe. That in itself can create a lot of stress. But the damage is done, it can’t be changed. What matters most is how your family moves forward from here.
Don’t take sides, just let them both know you love them and you will all get through this. As you start to move forward, worry a little less about the clothes and car to put focus on the real important expense of college. With open hearts, minds and love you will all do well.
Best wishes.
Tell your mom that she’s breaking your family up and should mind her own business.